In step 5 it reads:
"We also selected another trusted person to whom we could disclose the exact nature of our wrongs. We tried to select someone who had gone through steps 4 and 5 and who was well-grounded in the gospel. We began the meeting with prayer to invite the Spirit, and then we read our inventories aloud. The individuals who listened to our inventories often helped us see lingering areas of self-deception. They helped us put our lives into perspective and avoid exaggerating or minimizing our accountability...We started to understand our tendencies..."
I have done it.
Over this past week, I had a conflict planned for the usual time I attend PASG meetings. Because of this, I decided it was an opportunity for me to attend the woman's group for addicts. I usually attend the support group for loved ones of the addict, but I knew I needed to attend a group for actual addicts at some point because of my specific situation. However, it was a little drive to get to the meetings. There aren't as many of these available.
So I did. I went to the meeting the day before my usual time, and although it was a little different and I felt sort of out of place, I know it was what I needed to do and where I needed to be. I plan to attend this meeting on occasion, because it offers up a different perspective that I really need.
At this meeting, I met a new Facilitator who I felt I could share my inventory with. By this weekend, I had set up a time and on Saturday I was able to meet with her and lay it all out. It took a little over three hours. But it felt so good to just let out everything I wished I could say out loud to somebody and have them listen reflectively. I could have tried to do this with my husband but I'm sure at some point his eyes might have glazed over.
I feel so much better after having this experience. Now I feel like I truly have been able to be completely honest about everything. I was able to also pin-point how my addictions to media or fantasy are also correlated with my addiction to self gratification and I hadn't made that connection yet. I also have a new sense of determination to tackle my media addiction...right now I'm completely overcome by watching Vampire Diaries. At least it's only once a week, but I know that when I watch it, I get a high and have to come back to reality...and that's where the problem really is in that.
So here I am, willing and able to move forward to Step 6. Finally!